The Vocabularies of Numbing are Scarcity and Rage

The vocabularies of scarcity and rage are the only ones available to those who are numb. They create a vicious circle serving only to further numb them and keep anyone who could help them far away. The solution is to take a breath and give them room to be safe, and then tell them about taking just one breath, too, to get a respite from the pain. It only takes one!

You Are Not Who You Think You Are

You are not who you think you are. The mind tends to go to extremes. In the process it drags you through all of the junk that it finds to keep itself entertained. Imagine what a three year old would do given the chance to operate a bulldozer in the living room of your mind. It is something like that. Of course, when it is pleasant, we love it. When it is painful, that is when it starts to hurt. You know it will never end well.

Better help that kid grow up and be a good friend instead of a trouble maker, right?

Only then can you start to discover who you really are.

The Normalcy Of Misery

“I look forward to spending time with my friends so that we can catch up and tell each other how horrible

  • We are
  • Our family is
  • Our friends are
  • Our co-workers are
  • Our employer is
  • Our nation is
  • Is the entire race of human beings“

SAID NO ONE EVER

Take a five breaths and hear them out. Maybe that is what they want to say; maybe not. Ask them to tell you more. Reply “Gotcha…and…?”; sometimes it works wonders. “Gotcha… you are a horrible person and are we still going to the concert this Friday?”. “And” turns the topics from a roadblock into a speed bump; you can still go somewhere with it. Better to move forward then sit in the muck of bad ideas that probably aren’t even true.