A lot of us meditators feel like we can’t get our feet off the ground when it comes to our meditative practice. Typically it goes something like this:
- Meditate thirty minutes per day
- For seven days
- Then, never meditate again for six months
- Finally, the beginning and try again
Actually, that is fine because practice is practice. There is an easier way though that I call the ultimate meditation hack.
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Do you have a story about a miracle that you personally experienced? A lot of us do. Even if you don’t, you might have a friend or family member close to you that shared their story. The surprising thing about everyone’s experience here though is that the experience itself is easily forgotten!
It is a surprising attribute. Miracles are supposed to change your life for the better. They are supposed to inspire you to change your lives, and the lives of others for the better. They are supposed to be deeply meaningful, but in the end… they are not. In fact, they might not even be memorable. There is some comfort here though, and that comfort resides inside you.
Everyone human contains a unique property in this world: there is no one like them and they are here for a reason. That is miraculous. That miracle is inside of them and it is always with them. That miracle is untarnishable and it has an even more important property:
That miracle inside of you hasn’t got an expiration date. You will never forget about it. To simply be who you are in this world is to share it. There isn’t anything that you need to tell anyone about it.
You are your own miracle without an expiration date. It is the sole reason for your having taken birth as a human. Your job is to figure out that reason and start living it as quickly as possible.
Tell that to a four-millimeter kidney stone that one-hundred-percent blocks your ureter!
Better yet: talk to the person who owns that ureter. They will also tell you that you are wrong!
Trauma has two parts. The first part is created when you experience events that exceed your emotional capacity.
You can be one month old and accrue trauma when you don’t get fed in time. It is true; that does fit the definition. You can accrue trauma when you are one year old and you don’t get to eat that entire chocolate bar despite your biggest wails. This isn’t to diminish trauma survivors experience, rather it is a place to start making sense of the mechanics of trauma. As we grow older the opportunities for trauma typically grow in diversity. All of those events result in the same aftermath; retaining the event within our nervous system.
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Imagine your surprise when you discover that mitochondrial cells inside you do nothing but generate energy for you to go about your day. They expect nothing. Take care of them or not; they don’t care. The only thing they care about is setting you up for success. There are more.
Cut your finger and white blood cells rush to your aid. They don’t care what you did. They don’t care about your failures. They don’t care what horrible thing you did. They are there for you. They are there to help.
Your heart keeps pumping. Nobody asked it to do so. It just keeps running and running and running, all for you.
This is true love.
Accepting yourself for who you are doesn’t always mean respecting yourself. If you identify as male, then you are especially suspect here: part of being a person who identifies as male today means that you only compare yourself to the top 1%. The cult of exceptional-ism is strong, alive, and well today.
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