Men, Trauma, Rage And A Path To Wholeness

Trauma has two parts. The first part is created when you experience events that exceed your emotional capacity.

You can be one month old and accrue trauma when you don’t get fed in time. It is true; that does fit the definition. You can accrue trauma when you are one year old and you don’t get to eat that entire chocolate bar despite your biggest wails. This isn’t to diminish trauma survivors experience, rather it is a place to start making sense of the mechanics of trauma. As we grow older the opportunities for trauma typically grow in diversity. All of those events result in the same aftermath; retaining the event within our nervous system.

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They Who Have Always Been There For You

Imagine your surprise when you discover that mitochondrial cells inside you do nothing but generate energy for you to go about your day. They expect nothing. Take care of them or not; they don’t care. The only thing they care about is setting you up for success. There are more.

Cut your finger and white blood cells rush to your aid. They don’t care what you did. They don’t care about your failures. They don’t care what horrible thing you did. They are there for you. They are there to help.

Your heart keeps pumping. Nobody asked it to do so. It just keeps running and running and running, all for you.

This is true love.

Respecting Your Limits Means Respecting Yourself

Accepting yourself for who you are doesn’t always mean respecting yourself. If you identify as male, then you are especially suspect here: part of being a person who identifies as male today means that you only compare yourself to the top 1%. The cult of exceptional-ism is strong, alive, and well today.

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My Favorite Brain Foods And Supplements

Supplement Servings/Size Properties In Food
DHA & EPA Once Brain health, protection and repair  
Folic Acid Once Anti-depressant  
Ginger Twice Anti-inflammatory, anti-oxidative  
Inositol Once (1200mg) Anti-depressant, Anti-anxiety  
Magnesium Once Brain biochemistry, neuronal membrane fluidity for mental health Maple, syrup, nuts, raw baby spinach
Phosphatidyl Serine Once Neurotransmitters and optimal function  
Selenium Once (Two Whole Nuts) Whole body operational health Brazil Nuts
Seratonin Hourly Anti-depressant 50% Black Tea / 50% Whole Cow Milk, Sugar. Whole grain.
Turmeric Twice Anti-Everything  
Vitamin B Complex Once (100mg) Whole body operational health Chicken Eggs. Enriched Cereals
Vitamin D3 Once Bright shining minds  

The Vocabularies of Numbing are Scarcity and Rage

The vocabularies of scarcity and rage are the only ones available to those who are numb. They create a vicious circle serving only to further numb them and keep anyone who could help them far away. The solution is to take a breath and give them room to be safe, and then tell them about taking just one breath, too, to get a respite from the pain. It only takes one!

You Are Not Who You Think You Are

You are not who you think you are. The mind tends to go to extremes. In the process it drags you through all of the junk that it finds to keep itself entertained. Imagine what a three year old would do given the chance to operate a bulldozer in the living room of your mind. It is something like that. Of course, when it is pleasant, we love it. When it is painful, that is when it starts to hurt. You know it will never end well.

Better help that kid grow up and be a good friend instead of a trouble maker, right?

Only then can you start to discover who you really are.